Lingerie Gifts on Valentine's - Yay or Nay?by Business Listings Editor
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Men, February 14 is right around the corner, and perhaps you might be thinking about what to give your lady.
Maybe a bouquet of flowers? Because all women love pretty things that smell nice, right? Never mind that they only look and smell good for the short time that they’re alive.
What about a box of assorted chocolates? Oh wait, you probably gave that to her last year, and there were probably some chocolates that she wasn’t exactly enthusiastic about (which she likely gave to you out of what you assumed was thoughtfulness but sorry to break it to you men, nothing gets between a woman and her chocolate unless she dislikes it).
Ah, I know; I’ll get her some lingerie, you might be thinking. Well, before you bust out your wallet and head to the mall armed and ready to brave your way through a lingerie shop, it might be wise to find out if it’s appropriate to give lingerie as a Valentine’s gift. And just because we at inSing love you readers that much, we’ll lend a helping hand.
Nay for Lingerie!
Although Valentine’s Day is a romantic event where you normally can get away with sexy gifts, giving lingerie as a present may send the wrong signal to your partner. We’re pretty sure you wouldn’t want to mess up this annual romantic occasion. Here are some reasons you may want to think twice about getting her some lingerie…
- Is the gift for you or for her?
This may be a question running through your lady’s mind when she opens your present. Generally, people like to receive gifts that they like. They like gifts that are thoughtful and genuinely given to them with the intention to please them, not to satisfy the giver’s agenda.
Your present might send the wrong signals too – like, do you expect to see her in the lingerie that night? If you even in the slightest bit leaned towards answering ‘yes’, it’s likely that she can see through you – a woman’s intuition knows.
- What about the size?
If you’re planning to give her lingerie, you better know her size. Cup size, waist line – these measurements are important when you head off to the lingerie store. Don’t just look at colour, design, and what is appealing to the eye – fit and comfort are very important in wearing lingerie. If you wouldn’t want to receive underwear that’s too tight or too loose, neither would she.
It’s also important to know that sometimes, knowledge of measurements can fail. Not all brands of lingerie are created equal, and the fittings might be different for different brands. If you end up giving her lingerie that she is unable to wear, they will probably end up somewhere in the back of her cupboard, untouched and unable to fulfill its purpose.
- Has your relationship reached an appropriate stage yet?
Giving lingerie to your partner is tricky business. Lingerie are, after all, undergarments. And undergarments are private items. Thus, it makes sense that they should be given only to those with whom you share a sufficiently intimate relationship so that both parties are comfortable. Nothing screams sleazy more than receiving a sexy item from a man whom you don’t feel close enough to.
The tough part is figuring out whether both of you are on the same page when it comes to the relationship. In your mind, you might feel that she’s The One, and thinking about popping the ‘Do you want to buy a HDB flat together?’ question, while in her mind, she might be thinking that you guys have a long way to go before anything significant happens. Humans are complicated, and a lady’s heart is about as easy to figure out as it is to solve a Rubik’s cube with a blindfold on and one arm tied behind your back.
So are you willing to venture into this dangerous territory despite women being virtually impossible to fully understand? That’s something you have to decide for yourself.